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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"Why don’t you scuttle back to where you came from in that case, Chocolate. Irish - same to you, fella. I’ve felt horrendously bad the past month, but a quiet week by the sea last week has helped to recalibrate a bit. Take care."

"Have a good week lads, take each day gently and don't be too hard on yourselves, you're doing great. Be kind to yourself. Things will get better"

"Have a good week lads, take each day gently and don't be too hard on yourselves, you're doing great. Be kind to yourself. Things will get better"

"Are you on this thread seeking or giving advice, Boxer Chocolates?"

"charm my arse, it's littered with utter cunts"

"That’s part of its charm, Chocolate son."

"westham 67 I apologise, I'm new to this forum Sorry dude, no need to get chippy.. This forum is VERY strange"

Wrong thread chocolate yet another user name trying to discredit this thread

I'm optimistic of finishing of 16th and having a bash in the league Cup

Also - internet porn has a similar effect

It’s to do with the reward centres of the brain ^ dopamine etc

Sniper - my dad has developed many of the core symptoms since becoming addicted to Facebook these last few years. I’ve seen it happen before my eyes and being a natural adhd am familiar with the subtle signs

"Sniper - That sounds rough mate, and I know what you mean. As an example can you watch a film for 2 hours or is that just not gonna happen? My anxiety is at it's worse as soon as I wake up with the first thought of ''oh bollocks'' but find once up and especially showered I start to feel better, at least for a bit anyway. I find that being in company can take your mind of things for a while, especially if having a laugh about stuff (laughter is the best medicine) it's only a short term fix but better than nothing."

"I find that being ruthless with IT helps, although it may just be me as I've worked all my life with and in it. No phone signal? Check again in one hour, not 30 seconds. Can't access a website? Go for a walk/cup of tea rather than banging on the connect button every 5 seconds. It's not easy - some people may even go cold turkey if they don't have the latest news the instant it happens - but what the fuck can they actually DO with that news???"

"Bruuuno Really interesting you say that about adhd. I read an article about it the other day and about how modern society with screens and instant access to all information has greatly reduced everyone’s ability to switch off and keep focus on single things, and it’s almost triggering a ‘nurtured’ environment of adhd in some that starts later in life but still has the same issues This country is so far behind many others in our understanding, acceptance and treatment of anything mental health or brain related. I’m so lucky the Gp I saw years ago when my depression was at its worst was Scandinavian - she just understood and accepted it. I can’t concentrate on anything at all any more though. I have zero focus for anything. I feel in a constant state of anxiety all the time and I hate it - unused to be one of the most laid back people you could meet, now im a wreck who just hides it!"

*soon

"'67 Great that your family will be with you son. sounds great, maybe we'll catch up for a round there one day. Ha only thing is golf is enough to give me anxiety"

Thank you gentlemen. It wasn't easy to start with sitting in an induction with people half my age. I have a CV builder but its not like you need any experience its 2 arms 2 legs and you are in interview .At the time I was thinking my career is over but to be honest my industry if fucked due to IR35 and rip off umbrella companies My kids will be over in the next 2 months or so and working as soon as they can I can get them in with someone. In the meantime all of us will pay for my Mrs settlement visa. I am 6 years older than my wife and the whole family have been informed when I retire I will go and live in my house in Thailand and play a bit of gulf and they can stay here and work. Both my kids want to study here

"Here's a link to a charity that supports men through mental health issues, a friend started it and they do some good work. They're there to talk to 24/7 https://hischarity.org.uk/"

Exactly as Side says. Not too many keep fighting and fighting through adversity too. That is a tough gig. I am struggling myself and honestly don't think I could do what 67 has done. *tips hat*

Westham67 I have been quietly following your story. I think you are very decent bloke. And willing to work out of your comfort zone for your family is bloody impressive. I sincerely wish you and your family all the very best for the future.

"67, whomail"

"Thing is 67 even without your ailment I would still give yourself a LOT of credit. You're a do'er not a talk about doing an actual do'er. Hats off to you for the way you are willing to change your surroundings to earn your crust.....not many have that in their locker.....I know for a fact I would struggle.....hope the panic attacks stop and you sit back and think about what you actually achieve by taking on whatever it takes in order to get yourself a living.....even if you don't get the Stockport gig....give yourself credit for continually putting yourself out there.....fingers crossed for you though, that you do get it!"

"Thing is 67 even without your ailment I would still give yourself a LOT of credit. You're a do'er not a talk about doing an actual do'er. Hats off to you for the way you are willing to change your surroundings to earn your crust.....not many have that in their locker.....I know for a fact I would struggle.....hope the panic attacks stop and you sit back and think about what you actually achieve by taking on whatever it takes in order to get yourself a living.....even if you don't get the Stockport gig....give yourself credit for continually putting yourself out there.....fingers crossed for you though, that you do get it!"

"Strange stuff this ailment. Give me the full responsibly for the safety, quality and production for 140 Km of new build ballast track in the desert and I am not fazed in any way. Put me in a shit run warehouse and I have to go home from work after an hour phone the mental health crisis hotline get a GP phone appointment on the same and get 7 days sick and more if I want it with panic disorder Stockport council is my aim for the tram I am on the shortlist"